For the Mama Who…

Hi, I’m Becky! I’m a Mama to Jude (2 years old) with another little one on the way (coming June 2024).

I first cooked up this “For the Mama Who…” idea in February 2023 after 6+ weeks of being sleep deprived with our boy (who was 1 years old at the time). Jude was going through some major developmental changes that would wake him up for 2-3 hours at a time in the middle of the night.

Every morning I felt so defeated. I didn’t just need coffee or a nap. I needed someone to look me in the eye and simultaneously say to me “this is hard… and it’s going to be ok.” I needed someone to see me, acknowledge I wasn’t being dramatic, while also offering words of encouragement. Sit with me in the difficulty of that season, and also stretch out a hand and pull me from the waters I felt like I was drowning in.

This is the awkwardness of motherhood. It’s often not about needing “this or that”... it’s “yes, and”. It’s striking that balance between listening and sometimes offering advice (without judgment). It’s meeting people where they are, but not leaving them where they are, feeling isolated (and sometimes crazy).

Motherhood looks different for everyone, and every child is unique. Meaning, motherhood can look different year after year for a woman as she’s raising different babies. But the fact remains, we are all mothers, and it’s a journey. Let me say that again - it’s a jourrrrrrrrrrney. One where we need to use our collective experiences and stories to help each other not feel alone in their struggles.

This is where “For the mama who…” comes in. It’s a blog series written for mamas who are in the thick of it, whatever “it” is.

I needed this resource back in February 2023 when my boy turned one and wasn’t sleeping. I also needed this when he was a newborn and I was becoming a mom for the first time. And I’m going to need this in June 2024 as I’m navigating the newborn stage for the second time.

I wrote these initially for myself and then decided to publish them online. My hope is these short posts will help other mamas who feel alone or unseen in their tiredness, worry, and general overwhelm.

Breathe in: This is hard.
Breathe out: It’s going to be ok.

You got this, mama.